It is easy to try to do too much and end up frustrated and exhausted. You may have a job you are paid to do, a family and home to run, community commitments, perhaps study and so much more. On top of this people say, 'You Only Live Once' also known by the acronym YOLO. There is pressure to have many experiences. You see what others are up to via social media and suffer Fear Of Missing Out, abbreviated to FOMO.
Some people are now learning about JOMO (Joy Of Missing Out). JOMO means you are prepared to turn down an invitation to a party, concert, meal out, adventure or whatever you don't really want to be involved in. Perhaps you have been busy all week and don't have the energy to go or you feel you need some solitude. The time gained allows you to spend some time alone pottering around at home, going for a walk, knitting or doing whatever you want rather than what others say you shouldn't miss out on.
JOMO also means you disconnect from social media from time to time to give yourself the opportunity to concentrate on your own life, to be mindful, rather than focussing on what everyone else is up to. Dr Danny Penman has co-authored a book called Mindfulness:Finding Peace In A Frantic World. He says, 'JOMO is a genuine rising trend because people are beginning to take stock of their lives and take time out for themselves. If you are not the one calling the shots, mobile tech can easily take over your life and leave one burnt out and broken.'
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Is your personal motto YOLO? Do you suffer from FOMO? Or does JOMO describe your attitude better? Here's a quiz to help you find the answer. I was not surprised to find JOMO describes my attitude to life.
I would sometimes rather spend time alone doing a bit of gardening, walking my dog or reading a book than going out. I avoid noisy crowded functions. Friends know I only check Facebook every few days so it's not an efficient way to contact me.
It could be that much of this article is irrelevant to your outlook on life. Your beliefs may disagree with the idea of only living once. Perhaps you haven't been involved with social media in the first place or it has a limited place in your life. Maybe if you want to know what's happening in a friend's life you pick up the phone for a chat or to organise a quiet catch up over coffee. Or you have always done what feels right for you rather than following the crowd. If this is the case FOMO doesn't apply to you. You may feel you aren't missing out on anything that matters so the acronym JOMO isn't relevant.