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What If I Don't Want A Baby

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The last of my friends, aside from myself, has just announced her pregnancy. I'm so very happy for her and for all of my friends that have experienced the joy of having a child. I wish them nothing but love and joy as their families grow. And I look forward to participating in this journey with them.

However, now it seems that the group has turned their gaze upon me. Apparently, it’s my turn. And I’m struggling with this idea of what I am “supposed to do” next. I’m finding that more and more of my friends and family are making assumptions and putting pressure on me to have a baby because I’m married and settled and that’s what comes next in life.

But who decides that that’s what’s next in my life? Shouldn’t that be my decision and not anyone else’s? And why do I have to rationalize that decision to everyone because it’s different than what they’ve decided to do with their lives?

I’m happy with my life at the moment, I’ve got a loving husband, a great job and we love our life. At this time, a baby doesn’t fit into that equation. That may change, or it may not. But who else but me should be the one to make that decision?

Maybe I need to be less concerned about what other people think about me and my decisions. Maybe I should be less worried about what they think. I get to choose for myself and other people get to choose for themselves, it’s not my job to tell them what to do and it’s not their job to tell me what to do. They can have their opinions, but that doesn’t mean that I need to follow them or even listen. I might not always make the right decisions, but they’re mine to make.

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# Life Choices
# Parenting
# Family
# Babies
# Children
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Great article. Couples need to do what feels right for them. Having a baby who then grows into a child, a teenager, an adult is such a major decision and responsibility. It is full of unknowns. This is a decision which should not be influenced by what others want you to do. However, there can be a great deal of pressure. Stand by your decision. You don't have to explain to anyone.
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