We all have them but may not recognise them or get the most out of them. We need them to help us make sense of the world around us and how we feel about it. They are quiet moments of contemplation.
We can't always build these moments into our day. If we try to force contemplation into a particular time slot our thoughts may become blocked or we may resent them as an imposition. Rather learning to notice those moments during the day when we find ourselves in a contemplative mood or taking the time to reflect on what is happening around us is more likely to be useful. It is valuing those times and making the most of them that will help us to be mindful and aware of what matters most to us.
Sometimes we can catch ourselves being contemplative when we hear something - a song or something someone says. It can trigger in us a physical reaction or a memory. We can feel prickled and unsettled or we can feel soothed and comforted. When we do this kind of reflection we start to reflect on our life in some different ways, in ways that are in tune with our inner selves, helping to connect the past, present and future.
It helps us learn from our experiences, recognise what might be unfinished business or to see the links between themes in our lives. We may be ready or not to tackle some of those right away or we might want to tuck them away and come back to them later.
Planning some time to sit and do nothing or take advantage of times when we are waiting or on public transport can give ourselves permission to contemplate. We can come back to some of those thoughts we pushed aside or simply reflect on how we are feeling in our physical bodies. From there we might make links to situations or thoughts which are having an effect. Before we know it we can be in a stage of deep contemplation.