I've seen the latest Facebook memes which state that dressing for your size and shape shouldn't be an issue; you should just wear what you like.
I'm here to tell you that you shouldn't. At size 14, what I would like to wear is a pair of skinny jeans and a snug T-shirt. I've tried that, and the result aint pretty. Let's just say there was a whole muffin going on, never mind the top!
After some careful research and a bit of trial and error, I've found shapes and styles that suit me, and ones that don't. Let's start with denim.
Don't fall into the salesperson's trap of getting you to buy high wiasted jeans to accentuate your figure – they will just cut you off in the middle and make your bum look huge. Some stores carry particular styles for Apple-shaped women, like me, which sit on your hips and are a slim and straight cut – worn in a dark wash they look fantastic.
Next, tops. If you've got a great set of big boobs, show them off! I'm not talking Pam Anderson style, but V-neck. V-neck tops do a great job of showing off your best assets and elongating your neckline.
For dresses I often go for a wrap dress, as the ruching and side-cut style narrows out your hips. Skirts can be on-the-knee, just above, or just below. Don't go for empire-waist dresses – you'll have more people asking if you're pregnant than you'd care to have (speaking from experience here!).
Jackets are great in blazers and leather, but don't go for cropped looks – again, just cutting yourself off and emphasising things you don't want to. Coats in a slim long line that skim the thighs or knees look fantastic.
Try long necklaces which detract from the midsection, and now that it's winter make best friends with scarves – they are a big girl's saviour.
Shopping can be a nightmare at the best of times, but when you're not a size 10 it can be very disheartening. I hope this guide helps!
And don't forget – you can look and feel fantastic just how you are!
Great article! As a big girl, I know how hard it is to find flattering clothes. And just to make it harder, I'm also a shorty which makes shopping for clothes a very depressing venture! Has anyone got any tips for shorties who are also big girls?
I found a great wrap dress once in French Connection, and I know Leona Edmiston does them. Alternatively you could look on ebay for some Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dresses - she is the queen of them! Good luck!
Awesome article.. Being a plus size myself, I am anxious about my looks and that impacts my confidence levels a lot not only while shopping for dresses but also in general interactions with friends, colleagues and especially managing their children's perceptions and comments. At times it's painful not finding your size in the regular clothes store. And slightly boosting to hear the plus size stores guy saying that your size is too small to be found there :D
I know how you feel about being self conscious. It's hard, but I am absolutely passionate about women being able to look fantastic at any size and shape. Thank you for reading the article and I'm glad you enjoyed it!