Our move across the world was my idea so I can most definitely blame myself for the homesickness, culture shock and lack of social outlets. Even though it was one of the toughest things Iíve ever done, I knew in my heart that the move from Boston to Brisbane was the right one. The hard reality is that no matter how certain you are and how ready for you feel for it, change still sucks.
Change isnít easy for any of us. It seems to be a common human trait to embrace the familiar and reject change. As the great writer Mary Shelley explained in Frankenstein, ďNothing is so painful to the human mind as a great and sudden change.Ē That change doesnít have to be unexpected either. It can be self-imposed. Just because you wanted the change, doesnít make it any easier to handle.
Yet, times of change can be a turning point in your path in personal development, as I believe it is for me now. It is going to allow me to live the life Iíve always imagined for myself. A passionate, purposeful life that Iíve been trying to find for a long time now.
So how did I power through the difficulty of change? I knew that blue skies are ahead of me, literally, Iíd be experiencing warm weather when all those other fools up north will be faced with snow. Just thinking about that made me feel better, actually. But there were a few things that helped me power through:
Nothing ever goes as planned
I had to let go of my expectations and accept the way things were. Nothing ever goes exactly as planned and I had to work at being okay with that.
Even though America and Australia are similar, the culture shock hit me pretty hard. I had to stop thinking of the right way and wrong way and embraced the differences.
Learn to find the humour in everything
Sometimes the best thing you can do is laugh at yourself or the situation and remember that itís not the end of the world. If you can find the humour in it, than it canít be all that bad.
Everything happens for a reason
I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. So even when the situation seems grim, it has been placed in your life for a reason. Perhaps to bring a new person into your life or provide you with perspective. It might not be clear right away, but eventually, youíll understand.
While I know that feeling comfortable in my new home is still going to take some time, I know that Iíll look back on my decision without regret. Iím so grateful for this opportunity and look forward to the new adventures that it brings.